We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters. We want to be good people, serve others, take care of our bodies, and spend time with Jesus.
And we expect ourselves to do all of this more or less flawlessly.
We are adults. We have arrived. We should be better than who we were.
When we aren’t, we either dig in our heels, continuing to press forward striving for our idea of perfection, or we are paralyzed by the enormity of what we need to do finally be good enough.
Improve Your Life by Adjusting Your Expectations
It’s like trying to tell my son, Simon, that it’s impossible for him to work with Minnie Mouse because she’s not real. He would either be devastated and throw a tantrum or be mad at me for ‘lying’ and throw a tantrum. Nothing good comes out of it.
But you would never tell your 8-year-old daughter that the odds of her becoming an astronaut are slim to none. So why should we admit to ourselves that perfection is out of our reach?
Because all that striving is breaking our hearts, damaging our homes, and putting insurmountable pressure on our marriages and children.
Friends, it’s not how much we do or have that make us who we are.
It’s our hearts.
When we were younger, we saw adulthood as something that you arrived at fully prepared for. But now we know growing more like Christ, embracing our God-given strengths and submitting them with our weaknesses is a life-long journey.
Dreams and passions are wonderful. They give us vision. They require us to lean on God as He brings us to areas that are so much bigger than ourselves.
But if our expectation—our end goal—is solely worldly success, we will always be disappointed. If we want to improve our lives, we must adjust our expectations.
Are we seeking worldly success or full dependence on God?
I encourage you to ask yourself these questions.
- Do I equate my worth to how much I own or accomplish?
- How would I feel about myself if I lost all of my possessions and the ability to keep striving towards perfection?
- What would I need to accomplish to be happy with myself?
- How could changing my expectations of myself and my family improve our lives?
There is so much more I want to dig into with this post, like practical ways to make realistic expectations and to rely fully on God for the ones that are bigger than you can accomplish on your own.
You can find the second post on 5 areas to adjust your expectations, here.
Do you struggle with not living up to the ideals you have set for yourself? In what area(s) do you need to submit to God?
Go love well, friends.
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