Did God skip over me?
You look around at all of the women using their passions and gifts to love others.
And then you sheepishly look at your own life.
Why did God skip over me when he was doling out callings? Why wasn’t I good enough?
Oh, sweet friend, I’ve been there.
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Did God forget you when He was doling out callings?
For years, I wondered why God skipped over me. It seemed like everyone around me had these amazing talents and gifts that they were excelling at and using for God’s glory.
And me, well, I’m just average and awkward. Awkwardly average and anxious. I’m pretty much a hot mess.
There is nothing that I am the best at. How could God use me? Call me?
I know I’m not the only one who has had these thoughts. Countless books and blog posts have been written on this very topic. Obviously, it’s stressing the Christian women of America out.
The more I thought about my desire—and those echoed by a multitude of women—for a specific calling the more I realized this:
Searching for this elusive calling seems a lot like a group of women wanting to know if they matter—if what they are doing is enough.
So we get online and we compare, we look to our friends and we compare, we watch tv and compare, and we keep on comparing until we are convinced that everyone else has all the goods to serve God, and we have none.
Here’s the truth, friend: God gave you gifts, passions, and a heart for His people. Your calling is to use them wherever you are, no matter how great you are at them.
So let’s stop looking to others to see if our talents match up. You do you. And I’ll do me!
There is one thing that you ARE the best at, and that’s being you.
I know. I know. It sounds cliche and hokey. But hold on for another minute. Let me explain.
What is it that God has given you to do?
Take a deep breath with me, friend. We’ve let go of the idea that we need to be awesome at something and do big things for God.
There is a vocation that God gave all of us—to love well. I love how Jen Hatmaker paraphrases Paul on this—
“Because as Paul basically said: We can have our junk together in a thousand areas, but if we don’t have love, we are totally bankrupt. Get this right and everything else follows. Get it wrong, and life becomes bitter, fear based, and lonely. Dear ones, it doesn’t have to be.” (For the Love**)
All we need is love. Love is the ultimate calling.
And it’s all of ours. It doesn’t matter if your gift is writing, singing, cooking, hosting, speaking, crocheting, or underwater basket weaving. We are called to use our skills to love—wherever we are! Yes, wherever we are—in prison, or somewhere that feels like a prison, at home, at work, at school, in third world countries, and in the grocery store.
You’re are not excluded from this.
You are called to love. And you are able to love because Love resides in you.
So go love well, friends!
(If you have no idea where to start, check out this post on 4 Ways to Find What You’re Passionate About.)
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