Make sure you stay-at-home with your kids, but, also, you need an outside job because you are more than a mom. Keep a clean, welcoming home, but don’t stress out about your house, keep it real. Dress up for your husband, so he feels appreciated and loved. Never change your appearance for anyone!
It’s no wonder that we’re so disoriented, especially when it comes to using our passions and gifts.
The 3 Lies Holding You Back From Pursuing Your Passions
Lie 1: I’m not enough. There is nothing special about me.
Somewhere along the way, someone made a judgmental remark about you. Didn’t they? They told you that you were just an average singer or too unfocused to amount to anything. And since then, it’s become your inner voice. Whenever you get the courage or desire to want to use your talent, you hear this voice in the back of your head, “You are not enough.”
Truth: You are special, worthy, and enough.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. – Psalm 139:14
God made you. God’s hands created you, and His Holy Spirit dwells within you. Darling, you are not some bag of bones on your own.
And don’t fall victim to this related lie, either: She does it better than me. So why should I try?
Another’s “calling” doesn’t diminish your own
Success is not limited. It’s exactly the opposite. There is always more room for the children of God to love more and serve more.
Lie 2: I don’t have enough resources to pursue my passions.
(See also: Pursuing my passions is selfish.)
You don’t have enough time, money, and energy to add another ‘thing’ to your day. And if you did add something, you would you be disappointing someone else.
Trust me, I hear you. We think like this because we believe pursuing our passions has to be something big and self-serving. And as long as we view them like this, they will seem unattainable.
Truth: We serve a God with infinite resources and love.
Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom. – Isaiah 40:28
First of all, if there is something that God has called you to, you can trust that He will equip you. The universe is rigged for your growth.
Second, small is the new big. There are lots of little things you can do to love others well with your passions.
Friend, passions are not innately selfish. It’s not selfish to find out what makes you come alive. It’s a unique God-given part of you. You choose if you are going to use it for good or evil.
You can serve and love others with it or you can serve yourself. Your heart is what makes it selfish—not the passion itself.
Lie 3: My past excludes me from being used by Christ.
(See also: I’m a mess. How can I love people well?)
This is the lie that I struggle with the most. For far too long, I have thought my past makes me unusable by God. Look at me.
How can my messy, anxious-self be used to love others well? Do you struggle with this, too? Lucky for us, the Bible is full of sinners after sinners being used for God’s glory.
Truth: Not a single one of us is sin-free. We are all messes, and God is glorified in our mess.
For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. – Romans 3:23 (NLT)
Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. – 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NLT)
We don’t pursue our passions to make much of us. The whole purpose of callings and gifts are to make much of Him and love others well and move the world forward. Let’s take our focus off of how others may view us and focus on loving others.
Go love well, friends.