She named the recipe, “The Best Snickerdoodles I Have Ever Eaten.” So it shouldn’t have surprised me to find these words following the instructions:
If the cookies don’t turn out, please try again. It’s a very good cookie. . .
I couldn’t help but smile imagining a sweet little grandma enthusiastically sharing with her family “The Best Snickerdoodles She’d Ever Eaten.” Who cares if you prefer fluffy cookies over slightly undercooked chewy ones? Or if you like yours with more cinnamon or more cream of tartar?
It doesn’t matter because “these are the best ever,” and if you don’t like them, you did something wrong.
And while my encouraging, albeit imaginary, grandma is harmless, it does remind me of the you-must-like-or-do-xyz-or-you-are-flawed culture we live in.
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It’s the culture with the numerous, yet emphatic, opinions on the best way
- to look.
- to act.
- to educate.
- to make money.
- to communicate.
- to love your spouse.
- to raise your children.
- to pray.
- to have a quiet time.
- to worship.
It leaves us with plenty of options to feel not good enough about or humiliated by or simply lonely.
This is, unfortunately, even true in the Christian community.
If we aren’t the “ideal” Christian, if our sin is too big or too obvious or if we are too “out-there” with our appearance or our questions, others wonder, “Are they really saved? Should we really let them in our group?”
I know I’m preaching to the choir here, so where do we go from here?
7 Hope-Filled Verses For Those Who Don’t Fit In
Friend, I want to introduce you to my favorite words. These are words that I cling to when I’m feeling too different or left out or misplaced.
But God created you in His Image.
You’ve believed the lie that something is inherently wrong with you. . .
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. – Genesis 1:27
But He made you.
The world says you’re not enough. . .
Your hands made me and formed me;
give me understanding to learn your commands. – Psalm 119:73
But God made you different on purpose.
You’ve been mocked and humiliated for your uniqueness. . .
We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully. – Romans 12:6-8
But God looks at your heart.
The world says too big or too small. . .
But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7
But God saves all who turn to Him.
You feel like you are too far gone. . .
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. – John 3:16
But God is making you more like Jesus.
Your church says you should be more like them. . .
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. – Galatians 2:20
But God welcomes you as a beloved part of the Body of Christ.
You wonder if you will ever belong to anything. . .
For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink – Corinthians 12:13
So what’s next?
It doesn’t matter how insignificant you feel, how ostracize you have been, these truths remains:
- You were made on purpose in the image of the Almighty God.
- There is no sin too great for His blood.
- It’s your heart not your appearance that God cares about.
- And you are a beloved daughter, heir to the throne, and part of the body of Christ. The same Spirit who dwells inside of those who seem to have it all together dwells in you — uniting us.
As a fellow misfit, I encourage you to embrace your differences and your awkwardness. Be brave in Christ and reach out. When you open your heart you will be so surprised with the resounding “me too.”
And for those of you feel different because of how you’ve wrestled with your faith, I recommend Sarah Bessey’s book Out of Sorts: Making Peace with an Evolving Faith and Rachel Held Evan’s Searching for Sunday: Loving, Leaving, and Finding the Church (You can find my review of it here).