It’s 3 PM, and Simon wakes up from his nap grumpy. Aren’t naps supposed to be refreshing? The no’s and I-don’t-want-to’s start spewing, and I am counting the minutes until 5 PM.
Then Daddo will walk in the door, little feet will run to meet him ready to be scooped up in a hug and try to entice Daddo in some sort of made-up 3-year-old game.
I’ll look up from my perch nursing our baby, “Welcome home, love.” And Simon’s talking a mile a minute, trying to drag Dylan by the leg to show him his newest creation.
Yes, welcome home, indeed.
Whether you work out of the house or at home or stay home with your children, we all know that an involved dad makes all the difference in our families.
Dads are the unsung heroes of parenting.
And, yes, I know (first-hand) that not all fathers have stepped up to the plate. But not all men are inept, distant parents.
That is a big reason why I believe it’s essential to our families to show love and respect to the men who do.
Trust me, I don’t get this right all of the time. Just today my husband and I got in an argument because I was nitpicking his parenting. Not my best moment.
If you are feeling a little convicted to better help your husband feel loved, here are 10 ways for you and your children to make Dad feel loved all year round.
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As his wife – how to help Dad feel loved
- Affirm his contribution to the home and thank him. Let him know that you appreciate all that he does for your family. Mark Twain once noted that he could live two months on a good compliment. Don’t underestimate the power of your words.
- Let him know he is doing a great job as a dad. Moms are pretty vocal about wondering if they are doing a good job as a parent, but dads are just as vulnerable in this area. We are both winging it and hoping we don’t mess our kids up too much. So let him know that he’s doing a great job. (See #1)
- Talk respectfully to him especially in front of your children. If we want our children to show respect to their dad, we need to first model it. Not only does this give them an example of how to treat others, but by keeping our arguments out of little ears, we are creating a safe haven for our kids.
- Don’t talk negatively about your husband to your kids. Well, obviously, right? But sometimes little remarks come out that should’ve been left unsaid. Your child asks where Dad is, and you respond, “He’s running late, AGAIN!” While it might make us feel good at the moment to air our grievances, it does more harm than good.
- Leave him encouraging notes/prayer/quotes. Place a note in his briefcase, on his dashboard, or even just send him a text message to tell him he’s doing a great job. Get creative or keep it simple, just let him know that he’s appreciated and loved.
As important as it is for us as wives to affirm and lift up our children’s father, it is just as vital to include our children in this as well. It’s fun, too!
Here are five ideas to help you encourage your children to show love to their dad, but you know your husband best. Use this as a starting point to finding specific ways to love the man in your life.
How to help your kids make dad feel loved
- Tell him that you love him. I know some families are less lovey-dovey than others, but these three simple words can make another’s day. If it’s not common practice in your house to say “I love you” consider why not and add them to your child’s vocabulary.
- Make him something special with your own hands. Kids love to create. Let them use their talents to show Dad just how much he matters. They don’t have to wait for a special holiday. Everyday is a good day to show someone love.
- Write him a letter. There’s not much better than getting a handwritten note from your child. It can be a thank you note or an I love you letter or if your kids are too young to write, consider filling out one of the many ‘All About Dad’ sheets on Pinterest.
- Ask him questions about his life. Sometimes it’s hard for children to relate to their parents. Encourage them to ask questions about Dad’s childhood, work life, and hobbies. Help your kids find what makes Dad, Dad. The more you know about someone the better you can show them love.
- Listen to him. We feel loved when we feel heard, so let’s teach our kids how to show love in this way. And a great place to start practicing this new skill is with Dad. Encourage your kids to really listen when Dad answers their questions. Don’t interrupt. Show that you care.
This is not an exclusive list on how to show Dad love, and all Dad’s are different and have different love languages.
But I hope this has given you a few ideas of how your family can better love and respect the men in your life. Grandpas, dads, stepdads, uncles, all of them need to know how much they matter.
Let’s let them know they are appreciated, and so, so loved!
I would love it if you would share in the comments your favorite ways to show the men in your life love all year round.
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